I went to see my Naturopath the other week and when he said “How are you?” I said “Oh I’m so tired!” He smirked at me and then told me an obscure story about how our thoughts become our reality which ironically at the time, I was too tired to give a shit about…
He did get me thinking though about the language I use and how often I speak without consciously considering my choice of words.
The other day I watched this youtube clip of Tim Ferriss and Chase Jarvis talking creativity. Among other things they talked about creative parameters and how even setting simple rules for yourself can challenge your default setting and bring fresh perspective to creative projects.
Lately I have been making an effort to say and do things more consciously so I took this as an opportunity to set some vocab rules for myself.
3 Words I am aiming to squeeze out of my default vocabulary.
I can’t even count how often I say the words “I’m tired”. Am I actually that tired all the time? Because if I am then something needs to change. Realistically though, I am probably not… I have gotten myself into the habit of saying that I am, and so am probably making myself feel more tired than my body really is. You know, what you think you become. I had been thinking myself tired.
I tested this out for myself by consciously not using the word ‘tired’ to describe myself. It was interesting to see how often I wanted to throw it out there just as a conversation filler if I didn’t have anything else to talk about and I noticed how often I used it as an excuse. I also became aware that I used it if I thought I should be tired, rather than checking in with how I actually felt – like the time my cat woke me up by stepping on my throat in the middle of the night. It seemed logical to me that my sleep had been ruined by my murderous cat and I should be exhausted. So I carried on as though I had been awake all night when really it was probably only a few minutes before I was snuggled back into my pillow fast asleep.
Although I can’t prove it, getting rid of ‘tired’ has given me more energy and more motivation. I feel as though I have less dragging me down and I have more time and energy to enjoy my day.
As in “Just do this and this and this”. I don’t like it. I feels like it’s designed make things seem less daunting, which is fine if you are setting step by step goals, however I also think that it discounts what actually has been done and devalues achievements. Check this out “I just created this blog” vs “I created this blog”. “I just cooked a three course meal” vs “I cooked a three course meal”.
Somehow removing the ‘just’ makes the statement so much more powerful. Don’t you think? I don’t know about you but I don’t want watered down achievements.
Unless I literally just did something, in a time sense (e.g. “I just arrived”) then I plan on rethinking my use of the word.
But is a fluff word. It seems like something we use to cover up for what we actually mean and perhaps soften a blow. “I like you BUT…”
I think we all need to man up a little bit, think about it carefully, consider the consequences and then say what we really mean. I’m not suggesting we all go gun-hoe and tell everyone what we think of them. I am suggesting that we need to be more mindful of how often we use filler words like ‘but’ instead of actually thinking of a response.
What about you loves? Do you have any default words you’d like to cut from your daily life?