How do you feel about affirmations? Love them? Hate them? Never heard of them? Thought they were only for weirdos?
Pretty sure I have thought all of the above at one stage or another in my life.
I was exposed to affirmations from as early as primary school. My parents divorced when I was about 6 and I guess they were worried it would mess me up as a person so they popped me into sessions with the school counsellor. I didn’t understand the sessions all that much. But she was a nice lady so I was happy to go along.
One of the tools she used to help me was to use affirmations. I remember in one of our sessions we sat together with her asking me all kinds of questions about my fears and used this to create a script of affirmations. She recorded them for me on a good ole tape so I could listen to them through my walk-man before I went to bed each night. It didn’t take long for the other kids (or probably my sisters) to make me feel self conscious of my affirmation tape, and so I would try to avoid listening to it whenever I could. I didn’t want to feel different to the other kids and I couldn’t understand the purpose of the tape so I began to resent it.
When did feeling good take second place to what other people thought?
A few years ago when I started exploring new ways of caring for my body I began to realise that my body could not flourish if my mind was full of gunk!
Thankfully I was graced with the likes of Melissa Ambrosini and Jess Ainscough who re-introduced me to affirmations.
So what are they? In my world affirmations are like little reminders of what is or what could be. For example: When I start hating on my body and feeling like I am not good enough (like the last time I went bikini shopping) I remind myself “I Love and accept myself.”
They are a way of replacing the toxic negative thoughts with positive glimmers of light. The more positive thoughts that you can fill your mind with, the less room there becomes for the bad ones.
They can also be used to invite more of something into your life, or highlight something that you were having trouble seeing. For example, if you are wanting to welcome more money into your life you might try “I am abundant. Money flows to me and all of my needs are met in abundance.”
Yep, I can totally see how repeating to yourself “I love and accept myself” over and over could seem a little coo-coo. So let me remind you that how you feel is more important than what other people think!!
And besides, no one is saying you have to shout it from your desk every 20 minutes or recite it to strangers. You don’t have to tell a soul (but you can if you want!). Affirmations do not come in a one size fits all. Everyone will feel differently about what they need and how they want to engage with it.
Some people are confident and will happily recite affirmations with others around, others feel more personal and will say them in private or may even just think on them quietly. Whatever works for you is perfect.
I recommend picking an affirmation for your day and keeping it with you as much as possible. Write it on a post it and stick it to your car steering wheel or set it as a reminder in your phone to remind you throughout the day. Don’t stress if you still notice the negative thoughts, just do your best to replace them whenever they pop up. The more you practice the easier it will become and before you know it positive affirmations will become your default brain setting.
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