Are you guys ready for another adventure in the Courage to Change series? I am!
I discovered this gorgeous soul online once upon a time and instantly felt drawn to her energy, perspective and enthusiasm. Every time she puts a new project out into the world I fall more deeply in love with her words and her brand spankin new ebook The Experiment is no exception.
I am thrilled to have her sharing her story in the Courage to Change series for Chin up, Lovely and I am pretty sure you guys are going to love her as much as I do.
Lovelies, meet Tara!
So let’s get to know you and your story shall we? Could you give us a little intro into who you are and what makes you tick?
I’m a certified health and lifestyle coach, writer, speaker, author of The Experiment and Demand Adventure, and co-creator of Soul Sister Creative events. I love nothing more than to empower women to reconnect with their passions and purpose, and create a lifestyle that supports their desire to live a healthy and adventurous life. In my downtime, you will find me at yoga, in the ocean or in the kitchen!
I am a firm believer that self-love is the key to everything we have ever desired in life, and that through self-exploration we can learn to use fear as our compass. I’m all for stepping out of my comfort zone on a daily basis, and believe change can be our greatest teacher in life. When you begin to see life through a different lens and begin to appreciate the experiences which you have been gifted, everything shifts. Life is just one big playground and all you need to do is give yourself permission to play!
Finish the sentences…
I feel invigorated when I… pull out my headphones after a morning walk with Caroline Myss in my ears; after a dive into the ocean; and when I come out of sivassana
When I was a kid I… Could argue my way out of anything. Mum said I should have been a lawyer!
When I grow up I want to… Feel as much joy as I do in this very moment.
What was? What is? Why change? The hard part? and the best bit!
Change has always been a constant in my life, even from when I was quite young. And whilst I think this has helped me to adapt well to change in more recent years, I think a big part of it is that I love the thrill that change brings. I thrive knowing that my life will never be stagnant and is ever-evolving, and that a new learning experience is just around the corner. Because ultimately that is what I value – having experiences that help me strengthen my relationship to myself.
But there certainly have been some incredible changes in my life over the last few years that I can say have truly turned my life upside down, in the best possible way. In between two long travel stints, I found myself back home in Sydney in 2011 with an intense feeling of discontentment with my health and body. Prior to this I had always had a very toxic relationship with food and my body, but I had finally reached a stage where I was fed up and determined to break free of the hold that food had on me. I felt trapped and lost, and incredibly stuck in this body that I despised. As the universe does, it sent help at the very time I was ready to receive it, and I soon found myself online soaking up the buffet of inspiration and knowledge being dished out by some incredible health bloggers, including Kris Carr.
Reading Kris Carr’s book, Crazy Sexy Diet, absolutely changed my life. For the first time in my life, I saw food as my friend, not my enemy, and I was empowered to use food as a way to love myself, instead of punish myself. Over the course of a year, I transformed my health without counting a single calorie and I developed a level of self-love I never knew existed. It truly was the most transformative year of my life.
This led me to ditching my career and studying nutrition, exploring my passion for writing, and combining my skills and interests into what I do now. When I look back at the last few years, the one important change that helped me successfully get from where I was to where I am now, is no doubt learning to love myself. I decided to turn self-loathing into self-care, and ease up on the negative talk that had kept me trapped my whole life. For the first time I felt that I had control over my thoughts and my body, and I was determined to nurture that.
I think the most difficult part of the whole journey was finding peace and contentment in where I was in the journey. Constantly wishing that I was already at my goal or as healthy and radiant as those I admired, was a constant struggle and taught me a lot about comparison and being present. I think it’s also important to say that it was incredibly lonely at times. When you go through a phase of personal growth, it is a journey that focuses so much on looking inward, that it can be hard for other people to understand. But just hang in there and appreciate where you are in the process, because the most amazing connections are waiting for you on the other end.
My advice to those who feel stuck and paralysed by their life would be to give yourself permission to explore a new perspective. Your mindset is the only thing keeping you from taking the next step, and it is drowning in fears and uncertainty. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Allow yourself to see life as your own experiment, complete with experiences that are designed to bring you closer and closer with your true self. And let your fears lead the way.
Whatever it is you are resisting or whatever change you are avoiding because of fear, know that that is the direction you need to go in. Do you want to be a spectator of life or do you want to be in the game? The choice is yours in every moment, and all you need is to be daring enough to say yes!
More of Tara…
Tara Caetano is a certified health & lifestyle coach, writer, speaker, author of The Experiment and Demand Adventure, and co-creator of Soul Sister Creative events. Tara empowers women to reconnect with their passions and purpose, and create a lifestyle that supports their desire to live a healthy and adventurous life. Tara’s soul-stirring energy and commitment to limitless living supports women in using self-love to finally give themselves permission to start a career they adore, embody vibrant health, embark on wild-hearted world adventures, and thrive in both life and love. Tara’s special brand of magic: Using fear as your compass to make this life your bitch!
Her online home, Feed Me, is dedicated to assisting women in feeling ‘Well fed’ through engaging, inspiring and entertaining posts on self-love, travel, adventure, nutrition, soulful life lessons and ocean conservation. You can also find her uplifting her Feed Me Family through her popular weekly email subscription of ‘Well Fed‘, as well as on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter @feed_me_blog.
See! How refreshing is her perspective on life? If you love Tara’s story of having the courage to change her life as much as me then holla!! I LOVE to hear from you guys and I am sure Tara would love to as well.