I’ve been thinking about this a whole heap lately but struggled to put it into words. I have a little question for you to answer for me…
How do you want to make people feel?
Too often we forget the impact we can have on others, particularly when we get caught up in our own issues. Maybe you are stressed about a big project at work and someone cuts you off in traffic so you are grunt at the check-out person who asks how your day has been. That might not be such a big deal, but what if they have been grunted at 20 times already?
Consider the way you behave towards others and what effect this might have on them.
Take a second to think of a time where someone has been dismissive, disinterested or just plain rude to you. How did that change your attitude to yourself and to that person?
Maybe you get home from a big stressful day at work and your husband barely notices that you are home and doesn’t get up off the couch. Does it make you feel loved ? What if he gets up and gives you a big hug and listens while you rant about your day? Does that make you feel loved?
I can think of a million times where I have let myself feel unloved, unimportant or just not enough because of the way someone has behaved towards me.
Equally, I can think of a million times where a warm smile, loving laughter and gentle support have built me up and left me feeling like royalty.
Actually, to be completely honest, I can’t think of a million examples of times I have felt crap or fab because of another person. I can however remember the feelings. They sit somewhere in my subconscious and flutter to the surface when a similar situation calls to them.
How do you want to make people to feel???
The way we communicate is so much more than our words. Words are only one way that we express ourselves. It’s in your words, your actions and your effort that others feel valued, loved and supported.
At the end of the day we remember more about the way people make us feel. You don’t have to say anything for others to feel it…
I doubt any of you lovely people would intentionally want to make someone else feel shitty. But I reckon we have probably all done it un-intentionally at some stage… or maybe it was intentional… I think that’s where we can turn it around though… with an intention to treat others like superstars!
This isn’t about making you feel shitty for accidentally making others feel shitty, just to maybe bring your attention to it a so that you can consider your potential impact a little more next time around.
What do you think? Shall we set an intention to treat others with love and respect and generosity? (I am going to assume you said “Yes Yes, lets do it!”)
I treat others with love, respect and generosity. I choose to spread love and kindness.