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Courage to Change – Tara Caetano from Feed Me

Are you guys ready for another adventure in the Courage to Change series? I am!

I discovered this gorgeous soul online once upon a time and instantly felt drawn to her energy, perspective and enthusiasm. Every time she puts a new project out into the world I fall more deeply in love with her words and her brand spankin new ebook The Experiment is no exception.
I am thrilled to have her sharing her story in the Courage to Change series for Chin up, Lovely and I am pretty sure you guys are going to love her as much as I do.  

Lovelies, meet Tara!

So let’s get to know you and your story shall we? Could you give us a little intro into who you are and what makes you tick?

I’m a certified health and lifestyle coach, writer, speaker, author of The Experiment and Demand Adventure, and co-creator of Soul Sister Creative events. I love nothing more than to empower women to reconnect with their passions and purpose, and create a lifestyle that supports their desire to live a healthy and adventurous life. In my downtime, you will find me at yoga, in the ocean or in the kitchen!

I am a firm believer that self-love is the key to everything we have ever desired in life, and that through self-exploration we can learn to use fear as our compass. I’m all for stepping out of my comfort zone on a daily basis, and believe change can be our greatest teacher in life. When you begin to see life through a different lens and begin to appreciate the experiences which you have been gifted, everything shifts. Life is just one big playground and all you need to do is give yourself permission to play!Me_Bowen


 

Finish the sentences…

I feel invigorated when I… pull out my headphones after a morning walk with Caroline Myss in my ears; after a dive into the ocean; and when I come out of sivassana

When I was a kid I…  Could argue my way out of anything. Mum said I should have been a lawyer!

When I grow up I want to… Feel as much joy as I do in this very moment.


 

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What was? What is? Why change? The hard part? and the best bit!

Change has always been a constant in my life, even from when I was quite young. And whilst I think this has helped me to adapt well to change in more recent years, I think a big part of it is that I love the thrill that change brings. I thrive knowing that my life will never be stagnant and is ever-evolving, and that a new learning experience is just around the corner. Because ultimately that is what I value – having experiences that help me strengthen my relationship to myself.

But there certainly have been some incredible changes in my life over the last few years that I can say have truly turned my life upside down, in the best possible way. In between two long travel stints, I found myself back home in Sydney in 2011 with an intense feeling of discontentment with my health and body. Prior to this I had always had a very toxic relationship with food and my body, but I had finally reached a stage where I was fed up and determined to break free of the hold that food had on me. I felt trapped and lost, and incredibly stuck in this body that I despised. As the universe does, it sent help at the very time I was ready to receive it, and I soon found myself online soaking up the buffet of inspiration and knowledge being dished out by some incredible health bloggers, including Kris Carr.

Reading Kris Carr’s book, Crazy Sexy Diet, absolutely changed my life. For the first time in my life, I saw food as my friend, not my enemy, and I was empowered to use food as a way to love myself, instead of punish myself. Over the course of a year, I transformed my health without counting a single calorie and I developed a level of self-love I never knew existed. It truly was the most transformative year of my life.

This led me to ditching my career and studying nutrition, exploring my passion for writing, and combining my skills and interests into what I do now. When I look back at the last few years, the one important change that helped me successfully get from where I was to where I am now, is no doubt learning to love myself. I decided to turn self-loathing into self-care, and ease up on the negative talk that had kept me trapped my whole life. For the first time I felt that I had control over my thoughts and my body, and I was determined to nurture that.

I think the most difficult part of the whole journey was finding peace and contentment in where I was in the journey. Constantly wishing that I was already at my goal or as healthy and radiant as those I admired, was a constant struggle and taught me a lot about comparison and being present. I think it’s also important to say that it was incredibly lonely at times. When you go through a phase of personal growth, it is a journey that focuses so much on looking inward, that it can be hard for other people to understand. But just hang in there and appreciate where you are in the process, because the most amazing connections are waiting for you on the other end.

My advice to those who feel stuck and paralysed by their life would be to give yourself permission to explore a new perspective. Your mindset is the only thing keeping you from taking the next step, and it is drowning in fears and uncertainty. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Allow yourself to see life as your own experiment, complete with experiences that are designed to bring you closer and closer with your true self. And let your fears lead the way.

Whatever it is you are resisting or whatever change you are avoiding because of fear, know that that is the direction you need to go in. Do you want to be a spectator of life or do you want to be in the game? The choice is yours in every moment, and all you need is to be daring enough to say yes!


 

More of Tara…

Courage to change Tara CaetanoTara Caetano is a certified health & lifestyle coach, writer, speaker, author of The Experiment and Demand Adventure, and co-creator of Soul Sister Creative events. Tara empowers women to reconnect with their passions and purpose, and create a lifestyle that supports their desire to live a healthy and adventurous life. Tara’s soul-stirring energy and commitment to limitless living supports women in using self-love to finally give themselves permission to start a career they adore, embody vibrant health, embark on wild-hearted world adventures, and thrive in both life and love. Tara’s special brand of magic: Using fear as your compass to make this life your bitch!

Her online home, Feed Me, is dedicated to assisting women in feeling ‘Well fed’ through engaging, inspiring and entertaining posts on self-love, travel, adventure, nutrition, soulful life lessons and ocean conservation. You can also find her uplifting her Feed Me Family through her popular weekly email subscription of ‘Well Fed‘, as well as on FacebookInstagram and Twitter @feed_me_blog.


 

See! How refreshing is her perspective on life? If you love Tara’s story of having the courage to change her life as much as me then holla!! I LOVE to hear from you guys and I am sure Tara would love to as well. 

Jodie xx

The Golden Rule – Stay Present Homie

This weekend I forgot something so friggin important to me. I forgot the golden rule. 

I got stuck in my own head.

I waited and waited for something to happen. Not only did I wait and obsess and think only of this outcome, but I stopped living in the real world while I waited. 

I forgot to be present. Forgot to enjoy the life I was obsessing about. As a result, I missed out on some of the fun that I was so looking forward to this long weekend. 

I got stuck in my head and it was icky. My mind was swirling and concocting all kinds of false realities and dragging me way way down.

I became a sulky little kid that wanted to eat everything, didn’t want to do anything and was bored, grumpy and hating on my own company. I stopped caring about what I ate and shoved almost anything I could find in my gob, at least while I was crunching I couldn’t hear my own thoughts. But then the shame spiral was added to my already shit stormy mind and a splash of body hate was added on top. My shoulders were up around my ears, I was full of tension and my teeth were clenched.

It all escalated pretty quickly really. Have you ever been there? It starts with something small and not particularly note worthy, and before you know it your fear has turned it into a vicious attack on anything and everything. Maybe you can relate? 

No one was safe. I seriously felt like I might snap at any moment and the sky might just fall in. 


Just two days prior I was feeling perky and ‘normal’. So what had happened?

I had forgotten to stay present. And even by the time I had realised that I was stuck in my head I was in so deep that it was not just a matter of snapping out of it. 

So when you are in so deep, how to you drag yourself out of it?

I meditated. I am not going to lie and say that rainbows appeared an magically everything was better. I meditated while the voice in my head told me it was fucked. When all I could think about was finding something crunchy to eat as a distraction I came back to my breath.

Over and over and over again, I came back to my breath. 

As I meditated on the beach I had a revelation. I know that’s a teeny bit dramatic but it really was at the time. My life continued whether I got what I wanted or not. Why was I letting this not only turn me into a bit of a nutcase but also control the amount of joy I felt and magic I experienced. 

I stood for a few moments with the waves crashing into my legs, filled my lungs with the fresh sea air and then left my thoughts and worries on the beach. 

As I walked home I heard the birds sing for the first time in days. I looked up and around me and saw the sky and trees and all of the magic that nature puts on show for us. I smiled at my love when he wasn’t looking and I began to feel alive again. 


Being present is something I often forget. Its not something that comes naturally to most of us. We need to practice!

I want to ask you a few questions. 
When you are future tripping, how do you feel? Do you miss out on life’s little bits of magic?
When you are present in the moment, how do you feel? 

For me there is a vast shift in my energy and mood from one to the other. Maybe you can relate? How do you remind yourself to come back to the present moment? I would love to hear from you!

Jodie xx

Courage to Change – Meg O’Sullivan

Ever feel stuck?

I don’t mean stuck like when you drop something under the couch and get your arm caught trying to contort your body so that you can reach it without rearranging the furniture. I mean stuck in your situation. The kind of stuck that feels as though it is slowly dragging you through a life that feels ‘blergh’. Maybe you are stuck in your job that you don’t enjoy, or stuck in a body that feels heavier or less healthy than your soul or maybe stuck in a relationship that no longer serves you.

Yep. Its icky. I hear ya girlfriend!

We all feel stuck in different ways from time to time but all too often our fear keeps us stuck.

As though the stuck feeling protects us from falling flat on our face in a new and unknown situation.

Everything you have ever wanted, is one step outside your comfort zone – unknown.

Over the next few weeks on Chin up Lovely I will be sharing with you inspiring stories of some Lovelies just like you and me who felt stuck in some way and decided enough was enough and made mustered up the courage to change. My hope is that you might just resonate with one of the beauties sharing on the blog and might muster up the courage to make some changes for yourself.

So without further ado, I present to you the very first amazing incredible and inspiring story!


 

Lovelies… Meet Meg O’Sullivan!
When I first found Meg online I was instantly drawn to her soul filled and cheeky nature. I quickly became a devotee of her blog posts and devoured every spirit soaked word of her e-book “Naked”. Meg has such a way with words and such a beaming smile that you cant help but be drawn into her presence and inspired by her energy. Bascially… she is totally rad and I am stoked to have her here sharing with us today.


 

So let’s get to know you and your story shall we? Could you give us a little intro into who you are and what makes you tick?

 My name is Meg O’Sullivan. When I’m not teaching (or practicing) yoga, meditating, journaling or writing you will most likely find me dancing, diving into deep soulful conversations or experimenting (very messily) in the kitchen.

I believe that we are all connected to a Divine energy.

I believe that although we are conditioned to think otherwise, we are in fact whole, complete and full… ALWAYS!

I believe that we possess an amazing ability to create the exact life we desire to experience.

 And it is these beliefs and my love of writing that compelled me to start Adventuring Home – my little online space for empowering women (and a few men!) to start experiencing the life they are truly crave.

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